Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Same-Sex Marriage Is a Justice Issue

Did I mention that I'm a happily married lesbian? At least, as long as I'm at home in Massachusetts.

Today, the Attorney General of Massachusetts sued the Federal Government to overturn Section 3 of the Federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). Section 3 of DOMA means that other states do not need to recognize same-sex marriages that are recognized in Massachusetts. I applaud AG Martha Coakley for taking this step towards marriage equality!

So, it seems like a good time to post a religious argument in favor of marriage equality. I was part of the steering committee that drafted this statement in 1998... when same-sex civil marriage seemed a distant dream. Enjoy.
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Massachusetts Declaration of Religious Support

For the Freedom of Same-Gender Couples to Marry

The most fundamental human right, after the necessities of food, clothing and shelter, is the right to affection and the supportive love of other human beings. We become most fully human when we love another person. We can grow in our capacity to be human -- to be loving -- in a family unit. This right to love and to form a family is so fundamental that our Constitution takes it for granted in its dedication to "secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity"; our Declaration of Independence likewise affirms the essential right of human beings to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness."

Throughout history, tyrants have known that by denying the right of oppressed peoples to form and nurture families, they can kill the spirit of those peoples. From the shameful history of slavery in America, the injustice of forbidding people to marry is evident as a denial of basic human rights. The American laws forbidding interracial marriage, now struck down, were clearly discriminatory. Denial of the status of marriage, to those who would freely accept its responsibilities, creates legal and economic inequities in addition to its social injustice. We feel called to protest and oppose this type of injustice.

As religious people, clergy, and leaders, we are mandated to stand for justice in our common civic life. We oppose appeals to sacred texts and religious traditions for the purpose of denying legal equity to same-gender couples. As concerned citizens, we affirm the liberty of adults of the same gender to love and marry. We insist that no one, especially the state, may either coerce people into marriage, or bar two consenting adults of the same gender from forming the family unit that lets them be more fully loving, thus more fully human. We respect the fact that debate and discussion continue in many of our religious communities as to the theological and liturgical issues involved. However, we draw on our many faith traditions to arrive at a common conviction: we are resolved that the State should not interfere with same-gender couples who choose to marry and share fully and equally in the rights, responsibilities, and commitments of civil marriage.

We affirm the right to freedom of conscience in this matter: we recognize that the state may not require religious groups to officiate at, or bless, same-gender marriages. By the same token, a denial of civil recognition dishonors the religious convictions of those communities and clergy who do officiate at, and bless, same-gender marriages; the state may not favor the convictions of one religious group over another to deny individuals their fundamental right to marry and have those marriages recognized by civil law.

As faith leaders, we commit ourselves to public action, visibility, education, and mutual support in the service of the right and freedom to marry.

(/signed by more than 1,000 Massachusetts religious leaders between 1998 and 2008)


Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Hate Violence Is Incompatible with a Christian Lifestyle

I continue to be surprised, and embarrassed, at how many self-declared Christians are opposing the Matthew Shepard Act.

Here is a Good Friday meditation, on the "First Word" of the sayings that are said to be the "seven last words" of Jesus before his death. Liturgically, it's out of season, but I think the sentiment is right on time.

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We Didn’t Know What We Were Doing

A meditation delivered at First Baptist Church, Medford, MA, Good Friday, 2004

The Rev. Dr. Joan M. Saniuk

Text: Luke 23:34



Hurting other people does not come naturally to us.

We don’t normally enjoy

nailing wrists and feet to a wooden scaffold

pointing a loaded gun at another person, pulling the trigger

dropping a bomb onto someone else’s city

turning away a person in need


And so we convince ourselves that it’s ok,

that it isn’t really us whom we are hurting,

that is isn’t really Christ whom we are killing.


We learn to name the other as not-human. We learn to use other names:

criminal. enemy. hooligan. foreigner.

abomination. derelict. illegal. gang-banger.

evil-doer, terrorist.


Terrorist.

Perhaps that what the Roman soldiers called Jesus

as they led him with two other men

to be crucified.



Holy and Eternal One.


This day we bring you our grief at the evil we have done to others: evil that we did not know we were doing; evil that we felt powerless to avoid; evil that we did not want to do.


We forgot that when we speak in anger, we hurt each other. That’s not who we wont to be; forgive us. We didn’t know what we were doing.


We forgot that when we disrespect our neighbors, we disrespect your beloved children. That’s not who you’ve called us to be; forgive us. we didn’t know what we were doing.


We forgot that when we lash out for revenge, we strike you. That’s not who we are. Really, it’s not.


Forgive us. We didn’t know what we were doing.


Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

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(c) 2009 by Joan M. Saniuk, Ph.D. All rights reserved. This material may not be re-used or re-posted without the express written consent of the author.